Once again, I find myself exploring the values that make little kids tick! Happiness for me will be in gaining your insight, all of which will add to my experience as I attempt to write meaningful storybooks for future release.
It would seem that socialization of children begins immediately after birth. I say this because we witness how our new little bundles interact with Mommy and Daddy and their older siblings when they have them. And then, we cannot overlook all of those loving relatives and friends who flock in to visit the new addition to the family at the earliest opportunity. We soon realize that the next step for the child is to distinguish one face from the other and to recognize sounds and tones, all adding dramatically to the socialization of the newborn.
Moving forward, we seek out many opportunities to develop the social skills of our little ones such as daycare, preschool, parks and playgrounds and even birthday parties attended by their little peers. Even the act of sharing, and giving or receiving of gifts, adds wonderful dimension to their overall socialization. Indeed, many environmental and societal exposures help to shape the unique character and personalities of our children from a very early age; however, the most significant social values seem to be learned from the child's own observation of their particular culture and how we, as parents, role model in their presence.
So now I find myself wondering just what techniques and strategies you use to ensure that your child learns appropriate behavior in common social settings, be it at home or outside of the home. Some might spank or threaten to spank or punish in some manner while others will encourage by rewarding and praising good behavior. Some parents encourage independence and self-reliance while others may discourage it in favour of ongoing dependence. Others yet will find the middle ground, taking into account the circumstances and the needs of the child. All of these and an endless list of influences will reflect in a child’s outcome and ultimately, impact his/her development as a unique human being. Seeing one’s child fit into the world in positive ways is all the reward a parent seems to need.
By no means is this piece intended to be anywhere near complete, or offer anything other than a few of my personal observations and views on the topic. My primary purpose for writing this is to invite unique and wonderful viewpoints on the topic from you, my readers. Since each child is individually special, I hope that you will share the secrets to your success in raising them. The proof is in the “little pudding” of course!